What Is Immaturity Development is a lifetime obligation, most minorities grow up in situations where in some cases they are forced into positions of per-mature adult hood. Some of us become teenage mothers/fathers, come up in the projects and get jobs. We learn how to survive, we learn how to make it in our environment, sure. In some cases we lack the intellectual development because we do not read, we do not understand the concept of how large the world really is. A lot of us struggle with alcohol and drugs because of the inability to mellow out and relax. Maturity comes with the ability to relax your thoughts. We have set up these module to help people to understand if perhaps they may be a bit immature. Remember the key to fixing anything about ourselves is to acknowledge the issues with ourselves. 1. Reactive: We cannot control what people do however we can control how we react to what they do. It is important for us to remain calm cool and collected within our thoughts and refrain from yelling and screaming when we are disagreeing or faced with a complication. Reactive people also display an inability to take control over their emotions as they are easily affected by their surroundings and other people's issues. A reactive person's whole day can be decided by something that is done by someone or something else. Reactive people should focus on developing the ability to think before they respond and only focus on things that in witch they can control. Consider your life like the battery in your cell phone, give the apps that you absolutely cannot live without the priority so you are not draining battery on the things you do not need. If you cannot change it do not give energy to it. 2. Obsession With Looks Looks are not forever and looks do not measure the value of what can be found in the heart. Most mature people are looking for what is in your heart and place very little value in the physical representation of you. Any person that is more concerned with your physical attributes than what actually makes you you is just as immature as the person that thinks too much of the way they look. Mature people tend to invest more time money and effort into the things that matter and sadly for the superficial too much attention in the area of your looks shows signs of low self esteem and immaturity so if you are this way you should work on that. 3. Defensive We have to stop thinking that just because a person does not agree with us they are attacking us. Healthy conversation and debating are signs of a mature person. An immature person cannot trade ideas because they are too busy defending themselves and their perspective to learn something from the conversation. Defensive people are argumentative because they constantly feel attacked. If you are defensive it can be helpful for you to consider the fact that you do not have to agree with everyone just as everyone will not agree with you. People will disagree with you and still enjoy you and would like to have you around however you can change that fact with how you behave when you are faced with conflict. 4. Consistent Playing Of The Victim Card Stop blaming your past experiences for the things that you conscientiously decide to do in your present. You cannot say I do not trust because I have been cheated on and hurt however you decide to enter a relationship. Relationships are built on trust, if you have issues with trust you have issues with relationships. You do not get to play the victim to help escape accountability for the choices that you make. Mature people are in love with holding themselves accountable where as immature people love to find people things of moments in life to justify their inability to take responsibility for their thoughts and ideas.
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Communication is the number one relationship killer. Watch and Learn
Communication is the one of the most important tools if you want to develop and maintain good mental health. Let us be honest, no one is ever 100 percent okay 100 percent of the time. The difference between those of us with a healthy mental mindset and those of us without is simply the ability to communicate. It is important for us to first learn how to understand our own feelings, actions and emotions so that we can PROPERLY articulate them to people. One of the biggest issues when people attempt to communicate is we often say one thing when we really were trying to say something else. Worst, our actions are not in alignment to what we feel or what we say leading to confusion. Confusion is the last thing you want to be in the middle of your attempts to communicate with someone. If you do not have a proper understanding of how you feel and why you cannot correctly explain it to other people. The other half of communication is listening. Learning how to listen is harder than it may seem. We have to learn to sit through what is hard to hear, what may hurt our feelings, what may not be true. We have to always be willing to hear others out if we expect for them to be willing to hear and understand our side of the argument. The ability to hear others allows us an opportunity to learn from our experiences. We may not see value in what they are saying however if we want to maintain healthy relationships with people weather they be romantic or platonic it is essential we disable the ability to be selfish.
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